I swear some days you could write my life as a soap opera. I would give all you soap opera junkies a show, let me tell you. A single mom trying to deal with a son with terrible 3's and a crazy ex husband who for some reason wants to make my life a living hell. I’m sure it would be really entertaining. Not sure who I would have play me, but it better be someone hot. Lol!
Just to give you a little behind the scenes of how my life happened to come to where it is now. I moved back to Indiana in 2005 to go to beauty school. Yeah, that lasted all of maybe 4 months. I learned real quick that wasn’t going to be the career for me. In the meantime, I was working at the IGA grocery store, when who happens to come into my life, my ex husband. He swept me of my feet with all of his sweet talk and lies. What every girl dreams of. He will now be the one known as “The Devil”, because sometimes I swear I think he is the antichrist. Anyways, we had a pretty quick "romance" and before I knew it I was in too deep. Well that’s what my pee brain thought. I just didn’t want to hear my family say, “I told you so”, or “I knew it” So unfortunately, I was stupid and stayed with him and the 5 girls he cheated on me with. O yeah…5, but by that time I had been pregnant for awhile and thought he would change.
Boy was I wrong…
We had a son. We ended up getting married a year later right before his 1st birthday. The biggest mistake of my life. I should have listened to my gut and just stayed how we were, unmarried. It would have been so much easier. O wait..I forgot to mention that he is a notorious liar. Yeah he fed me all of these lies about his life. He was in college (found that out to be a lie REAL quick), his mother was dying (She is still alive…no health problems that would kill her), he was never in trouble with the law and was the perfect student. (Umm..He was in jail for 3 months for stealing and was on house arrest when he was in like 8th grade.) and he is good at EVERYTHING! There are a million other lies, but you get the gist.
I know you are sitting there thinking…what an idiot! “Why didn’t this chick just leave him” Well, all I can say to that is, Love Is Blind. Plus remember people, I had a child. I wanted that family atmosphere. I didn’t want to go through divorce. My parents went through that and I was so dead set on not going through that again. But I guess the past has a way of repeating itself. So now, im a 29 year old mother, who works at an insurance place, selling insurance repeating my mother’s life, almost to the tee.
What have I learned so far…
1. God is the key to EVERYTHING!
2. You can’t fix a marriage when it was broken before the vows.
3. People lie all the time and you have to chose whether or not they are telling the truth. Most of the time they are not.
4. I need an education, because I can only rely on myself.
5. No matter what I’m a good mother and nobody can tell me otherwise.
6. Being a parent is the hardest job in the entire world, especially when you do it by yourself.
7. My mother is my best friend and without her I don’t know I have gotten through half the stuff in my life.
8. Make sure you absolutely love the person you are with and once they don’t meet your criteria, leave his butt.
9. Be very picky now a days
10. I WILL have someone that will treat me good and treat my child like a son one of these days. I just have to be patient
Until next time…
